Wednesday, November 27, 2013

The most basic of all of the tips for getting laid...

Are you having trouble getting laid? Do you find women online and once they meet you they never turn into a sexual relationship? It could be that you have a problem that is really easy to fix.
Here's one of the most basic of all of the tips for getting laid; work on your personal hygiene.

Its ridiculous that anyone has to write this down but women have a thing about how a guy takes care of himself. Us guys, we're not so petty about those things. I'm sure that most guys want their girl to be half decently clean, especially her undercarriage, but we don't obsess about cleanliness as most women do. The fact is guys, that if you don't come across as you are clean and fresh, that you are unlikely to get laid.
well groomed couple

Here's the deal. When you are going to meet a woman, especially on the first date where first impressions really matter, do your best to look well groomed. Follow along for the details.

I would suggest that you start at the top and work your way down. Plan ahead and get a haircut on a regular basis. Then keep it clean. That means wash it daily. Moving down, trim your nose hair, your eyebrows, hell keep all of your body hair to a reasonable length. If you are into shaving, do it before going on your date. Clean your teeth. Be sure to get a professional to clean them for you a couple of times a year, but in between, brush and floss daily - bad breath is a huge turnoff.

Obviously you're going to shower before your date, but be sure to put on deodorant to keep yourself smelling fresh.

Still working our way down, trim your fingernails and keep them clean. Women notice small stuff like that. And your toenails need to be decent too, although you might get away with that until summer when you get your shoes off more often.

The final thing, for the love of Pete, put on a clean shirt. No stains, rips or wrinkles either.

There you go. You already knew that but now you've been told again.

Friday, November 15, 2013

What ever happened to the phrase "Casual Sex"?


Back in the 70s and 80s,  when I was a kid the phrase casual sex meant something. It had some real impact. I remember hearing of a girl I know in college who was engaging in casual sex and my friends and I all thought it was scandalous. Granted, we were all wishing that we were the luck recipients of this girl's favors, but it was nonetheless, a term that changed the way we thought of her.
large breasted woman with a cowboy hat

In the movies you'd hear people talking about casual sex too. Those where the movies that you didn't tell your parents, or your "proper" girlfriend about. In those days we were all so tame - so simple - so horny.

These days you virtually never hear anyone talking about casual sex. I did hear a couple of old guys talking about it in the mall while they watched the young girls wander by and waited for their wrinkled wives to return from buying sensible shoes. But I digress. These days sex is so casual that you don't need to give it a special moniker. All sex these days is casual. OK perhaps not casual in that it's relaxed, but in that it's no big deal. These days high school girls are having sex on their lunch period (I guess they always did, but they were tramps). Guys are sexting and hooking up nightly with random women - in random places - at random times.

Sex is so commonplace that the mayor of Toronto is discussing his oral sex habits during press conferences. What's next, TV sportscasters getting it on during an interview in a locker room? When will this spiral end? Will sex ever be casual again?

Anyhow, I'm ranting. I guess I'm still jealous.

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Our ban on nudity is what makes AdultCyberDating different.

I get emails from new AdultCyberDating members every now and then asking why we won't allow them to post nude pictures on their profiles. We know almost all the other adult dating sites allow pictures of their junk but we have a reason not to.

I created AdultCyberDating way back in 1999. In those days AdultFriendFinder was my biggest competition (and still is) but, I noticed that their website was too raunchy for a lot of people. It's especially difficult for women to be interested in join an adult dating website when there is porn everywhere, like there is at AdultFirendFinder. I figured that lots of women and men are interested in short term, no commitment relationships but, many of those people are pretty average, clean cut, upstanding people in their public life. I'm sure that they wouldn't be so proud to have people know that they belong to an adult site but, I'm darn sure that they would be quite ashamed to be found on a site where there are close up pictures of various body parts alongside their cheery smile. So, I decided to build something different.

At AdultCyberDating we have a strict ban on nudity. We allow our members to get as raunchy as they like in their personal message conversations but we do insist on keeping the public portion of their profiles at a level fit for a 16 year old to read. That keeps the public persona of our site very clean cut. I would personally let my mother read the public content on the site without having to blush. The behind the scenes conversations are a different story though. Periodically I'll have to read a member's messages in order to debug a problem and there is no doubt that the members are hooking up. There are links to all sorts of other sites with nude photos and videos, but they are all safely secured in the password protected area of the website. So, yes we are running a hookup site for adults, but we are also keeping our appearances nice and clean to avoid any undo embarrassment. That's another reason why AdultCyberDating is different.